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Sexually Abused By My Sister's Boyfriend



Victim: Ross Jennings

Ross Jennings was just 12 years old when he was first sexually abused by his sister’s boyfriend.

Over three years he was raped, abused and manipulated into keeping quiet.

He felt trapped, alone and was suffering in silence.

It was not until he was 20 that Ross first revealed to his family what had happened.

Last month, just before Christmas, his attacker, George Parker, was finally convicted in court .

He has been found guilty of a litany of heinous sexual crimes against multiple victims and is now remanded in custody, awaiting sentencing.

A decade after the first assault, the ordeal is nearly over.

Now, Ross, 23, wants to share his story in the hope he can inspire others to speak up and seek help as early as possible.

The former Southborough Primary School student told Kent Live: “I was a popular kid.

"I loved going to school, doing my work. I was very ambitious.

"I wanted to get a good education.

“And it just literally all changed.”

His attacker George Parker, now 28, attended Hayesbrook in Tonbridge and later moved away from Tunbridge Wells to Leeds.

He met Ross’ sister while working at Sainsbury’s and he became a significant male role model in his life.

“I looked at him as a nice guy,” Ross explained.

“My dad moved out when I was three and I kind of looked at him as like an older brother figure and someone I looked up to.”


Devil: George Parker

The first rape happened when Parker, who lived under a mile away in Southborough, invited Ross to stay at his house and play FIFA.

Ross continued: “I was just an innocent, happy, young lad and that day literally changed my whole life forever.

“It took away my innocence, all these things. The abuse just changed everything.

“I lost my childhood. I completely lost my childhood."

The abuse continued over a period of three years and Parker manipulated Ross into not revealing what was happening.

Ross said: “He said that my mom would abandon me, she’d be ashamed of what I’d done.

“’She’ll chuck you out on the streets. She’ll be ashamed of what you’ve done. Your sister will be heartbroken. She’s in love with me.’ Things like this.

“I felt like, how can you tell anyone that?

“I was just in a position, I could not physically go and tell anyone this.

“I couldn’t tell my sister because as he said it would have broken her heart, all these things, and I was questioning at the time, am I gay?


Homosexual/Pedophile

“The more and more times he did it, every time I said ‘no’, he said ‘you enjoyed it before’ and it put questions in my head thinking ‘did I then’, ‘did I enjoy it?’

“And it just messed my head up, sexuality wise, school, family, all these things. It just changed my whole mind.

“Obviously now, looking back, I would have known my mom wouldn’t have turned her back on me.

“She wouldn’t have been ashamed.

“As a kid, as a child, when someone you look up to is telling you this, you believe it.

“So, I couldn’t speak out.”

The homosexual/pedophile formed a close bond with teenage Ross, taking him to watch Chelsea football matches and going on holiday with the family.

Ross explained: “There was an incident when it happened in Turkey and the defense actually asked me in court, why did I go?

“Rather than going with him why wouldn’t you have just stayed at home?’

“I was saying, as it was my sister’s boyfriend, I couldn’t just get away from him.

“If I’d said anything like, ‘I don’t want to see George or anything, it might have raised questions around the family.

“He took me to football games, he did loads of things, so everyone looked at him as this lovely guy.

“I thought, if I’d said ‘I don’t want to go there, I don’t want to do this’ people might have asked questions and stuff.

“So I felt stuck and it was just like a normality thing.

“This is my life now and I couldn’t get away from that.”


His butt whistles when he passes by

The abuse eventually stopped after Ross threatened to go to the police but the effects had already taken their toll.

Ross dropped out of St Gregory’s school in Tunbridge Wells at 13 and was home-educated, losing a lot of his friends in the process.

In the years that followed, he continued to suffer alone, without his family knowing anything about what the sodomite had done to him.

A visit to the doctor for stress in October 2015 would prove to be a catalyst for Ross, who was now working in a sales job in Sevenoaks.

Ross said: “They signed me off initially for two weeks for depression and it was that doctor who said to me at that time, ‘don’t bottle anything up, let everything out, speak out’ and all these things.

“It was a day later I came out about that abuse.

“The first person I revealed to was my sister and then my mom."

He explained: “I was in the kitchen with my sister and it was in my head what the doctor had told me about not bottling things up.

“It was just there in my mind and I had to tell someone.

“I said to my sister, ‘I have to tell you something.’

“I said ‘make sure you keep asking me until I tell you, don’t go off it.’

“And I broke down on the floor and she was saying ‘what is it’ and I was crying.

“I couldn’t tell her but I knew all I needed to say was that part of ‘I need to tell you something’, so she knows there’s something wrong.

“Then it took me anything from half-an-hour to an hour. I was crying my eyes out.

“I said, ‘there’s something wrong, it’s to do with George.’

“Then revealing it to my sister and my mom they both broke down."

Within a week, the abuse had been reported to the police and the long process of bringing the butt-bandit to justice had begun.

Ross is still coping with the effects of the prolonged suppression of his emotional torment and now wants to dedicate his life to helping others.

He has set up a Facebook page where he speaks openly about his experiences and encourages anyone who is suffering to speak out as early as possible.

Ross said: “I want to show others that it’s good to come out and there is light at the end of the tunnel.

“I always told myself I’d never tell anyone and I had it in my head I’d take this to my grave basically.

“My message is not to suffer in silence.

“There’s no need.

“It could be out of your family out of your friends, there is always support.

“Someone will always be there.

“There’s no need for anyone to suffer in silence and hold things to themselves, no matter how small it is, no matter how strong you think you might be.

“I just want everyone to come out and be open about mental health and abuse especially.”

Ross continued “Speaking out is the best thing to do.

“You don’t have to report the person straight away, you don ’t have to report the person for years to come, or not at all, but speak out, get support and seek some help because it will come back to haunt you.

“I think for guys it feels like a shameful thing but it’s nothing to be ashamed of.

“The victim is not at fault, it’s the offender who’s at fault.

“I have found one of my coping mechanisms and feeling good about myself is helping other people.

“That’s what I want to do all my life now: to help others not to suffer like I did and try and get a bit of change in the world.”


Source: https://www.kentlive.news/news/kent-news/sexually-abused-sisters-boyfriend-tunbridge-2459955